What is The Rules Room?
The Rules Room was born from TEN years of clients asking me to start a group for women to come and share dating experiences, vent, support, and cheer for each other. Sooo, now that I find myself with the time, I'm finally doing it!
This isn’t one of those text-only “set it and forget it” communities where the founder disappears after launch. This is an interactive space, and I’m in it with you. We’ll meet face to face weekly on Zoom (no pressure to turn your camera on). You’ll get answers to your actual questions, not just generic advice. There's also a chat feed to get to know other members, post updates, ask opinions, etc., and an "Ask Alicia" for those burning questions that can't wait until the next Zoom. I will also send you off to the weekend with reminders and pep talks to keep you on track!
Hi! I'm Alicia
...and I'm a Rules Certified Dating Coach. I've been a Rules Dating Coach for ten years and I just love it. I know it's cliché, but I love love- and I love helping women navigate the (exhausting) world of dating. I love engagement stories. And weddings! I'm married to the love of my life- thanks to The Rules. I'm all about women's empowerment and feminism, but I take a softer, quieter, more stealthy approach.
The Rules. What's that?
The Rules are a dating philosophy, a tried-and-true method passed down through generations. They're a framework we use for dating that allows us to quickly see through the BS and weed out the guys that are going to treat us poorly: the men that are going to waste your time, your energy, your money. AND you can easily spot the men that are worth your time, the ones that make it worthwhile to drag yourself off the couch, get dressed, and leave the house.
The Rules... Those Rules from the 90's? Yep. You may be skeptical... I GET IT. They may sound a little too good to be true. Perhaps you've heard of The Rules through the grapevine and they were framed as "game-playing" or "anti-feminist." I've heard it ALL. And I am here to tell you, it's just not accurate. The Rules are a set of boundaries. We learn them. We stick to them. And they help us see through men’s bad behavior AND help us spot the good men too. (The actual good ones- not the ones that run around hatefully telling women how we don’t actually want a nice guy. Cue the Liz Lemon eye roll.)
And if you’re wondering if The Rules are outdated, ask yourself this: have men evolved since our (great) grandmothers dated? If not, why shouldn’t we take a page from their playbook?
Why join?
The thing about The Rules is that they’re easy to learn- but they can be hard to do, especially when you really like him. They involve making new habits and standing firm in your newfound healthy boundaries: not reaching out first, not making excuses for him, etc.. And it can be hard to do it alone. Having a place to hold hands as you hold boundaries, practice answers for when he asks tricky personal questions, fix mistakes when we accidentally- or purposefully- break a rule, send each other screenshots of texts asking, “What am I supposed to say to this?!” and on and on... is SO helpful. So, that’s what this group is for.
This Community is for you if you are:
- Rules-y or Rules-curious
- Confused and/or exhausted by men
- Tired of being used and ghosted
- Tired of hearing crummy advice about catering to lazy men
- Sick of wasting your time on the wrong men
- Not interested in dating or marrying a man-child
- Not into situationships
- Already knowledgeable in The Rules but don’t have single, like-minded friends for support
- Looking for a man that will make a good husband (and possibly father to your children)
- Seeking a group of like-minded women, cheering you on
- Interested in learning a new (to you), empowering way to date
Are any of these you? You, my friend, are welcome here.
What's inside:
🌺 Live Weekly Zoom Calls
Every Monday at 12 PM Eastern (when the group grows) and Wednesdays at 10PM Eastern. We review the weekend, talk through the texts, the calls, the dates, the relationships- whatever's taking up space in your head, and figure out what to do next. We'll talk it through together and you’ll leave knowing what’s really going on and what your next move is. Join us!
🌺 Friday Check-In
Before the weekend hits, I’ll post reminders and pep talks. Usually something short but pointed, to keep you focused heading into the weekend.
🌺 Private Community Access
You’ll be in good company. Women who want to stop making excuses for men who are half in and half out. Women who want real feedback without shame or sugarcoating. We don’t vent just to vent; we ask real questions and we get real answers.
🌺 Call Replays
Can’t make it live? You’ll be able to watch when it works for you. You can also send in your questions ahead of time, and I’ll make sure to answer them on the call so you’re still covered, even if you can’t be there.
🌺 Resource Library
This part will be a work in progress, but as the community grows, you'll have access to trainings, courses, one-off conversations- the sky is the limit with this one. And I can take requests for now! With few exceptions, everything will be included in the membership fee.
✨This community is just getting started. It's small, for now, as all new communities are. But that works out well for you as you have a chance to get in early as a Founder and with that comes extra perks!✨
⭐️ Founders Tier - $97/month
Limited to 20 women- Join now to get first dibs!
I want to spoil my Rules Room Founders a bit so...
Founding members get:
A locked-in rate of $97/month for as long as you’re a member.
One private 30-minute coaching session per month (Easily scheduled through Calendly. Be sure to schedule them so you get the most out of your time in the community. I won't be able to roll them over from month to month.)
I’d love to offer a monthly 1:1 to everyone that joins The Rules Room, but there’s only so much time in my week. As a Founding Member, you get one included, but you're welcome to book more as you like. Later, anyone in the community can still book private sessions, it just won’t be included in their base membership. For context, my 1:1 sessions are $120 per hour.
So I hope I'll see you inside. It’s so much easier to do The Rules with others cheering you on! If you have any questions you'd like answered before joining, you can contact me at [email protected].
If you’d like to join and be a wallflower, that’s welcome too. There's a lot to learn from listening. I’m an introvert as well, and I know sometimes I just want to observe for a while (or forever) and not be singled out. You do you, Boo!
See you in there!
SOME THINGS TO NOTE:
- There are two payment options to join ad a Founder: monthly for $97 per month, or a yearly fee of $967, giving you two months free as a discount. Both are set in stone for the duration of your time with The Rules Room ☺️
- I need to let you know... If you would like to join the community, but are using an iPhone, please use your phone browser or a computer to complete your registration. The iPhone Mighty app is disabled for purchasing because Apple takes a wild, ridiculous 30% cut from each purchase. You will still be able to access the app on your phone after your registration is final.
- All materials included in this purchase are for personal use only. No part of it can be distributed, sold, duplicated, reproduced, or used in any form without the written consent of the creator.
- The information shared within this community and during coaching sessions is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not psychological or medical advice, and should not be treated as such. While I am a Rules Certified Dating Coach, I am not a licensed therapist or counselor. Any decisions or actions you take based on the content provided are your own responsibility. I do not guarantee outcomes and am not liable for any harm, loss, or damages resulting from your participation or use of the information presented here. By participating in this community, you agree to these terms and acknowledge your personal responsibility for your dating decisions.
- Discussing, clarifying, and asking questions about The Rules is welcome and encouraged, Challenging and debating The Rules is not.
⚠️ Privacy Reminder
Please respect the privacy of others. Dating and relationships are personal matters, and we often discuss sensitive topics. Call replays are provided so you can catch up or review advice, but they are for your use only. Please do not share them with non-members or post them, in part or in full, on any public or private platform.
